Everyday we interact with people, and we are so fast to judgement! A few minutes of conversation, and we already have pretty good ideas of what the other person is like: Moron, Dork, Obnoxious, Poser, and Awkward readily come to mind. These people now, every time we connect with them in the future, are stuck in their roles of “Awkward, Obnoxious, etc…” with little hope of changing your perception of them. The worst part of this is: they don’t even know it.
You probably don’t think this, but whenever we speak to someone, our opinion of them subtly affects the way we behave. So, if you think that somebody is inferior to you (the receptionist at your office, or the teenager handing you your bag at Wendy’s, for example), you will act like you are above them. What does this do? It gives the other person a pretty good idea of who you are, and makes the relationship a difficult one to maintain.
But why are we so ready to judge other people? You might be thinking “Oh, but I’ve known them for years and they’ve always been a complete dolt,” and that is the wrong way to think about that person. I recently read an article entitled “How To Deal With Jerks And Idiots”, and, as you can probably guess, it’s all about dealing with those people in our lives that really tick us off. While many people believe that they categorize people based on those peoples’ actions, it is more likely we negatively objectify people simply because they are not the same as us.
However, the one way in which we are all the same is that we were put here to better others. To love and accept others. To treat all neighbors as we would treat ourselves, and to not pick and choose to whom we give preferential treatment. The person you loathe hearing speak because of their ignorance on certain topics or simply the way they speak is no better and no worse than you, as much as it might hurt to hear this. It might sound like a cliché, but that person is someone’s child, maybe even a parent. To somebody, they’re Superman. Could you imagine how you would feel if you knew somebody thought about your mother or your child the way you think about this person in your life?
We negatively objectify people simply because they are not the same as us.
When you start to think of people as having value, not necessarily to you, but to others in their own lives, you will start thinking about them differently. To somebody at home, seeing them is the best part of their day, just as you are to somebody in your home. We are all put here by God for a reason, and I get it: a lot of times it can be nearly impossible to try and imagine for what reason somebody could have been sent here, but it is the truth. The faster you learn to accept this truth, the better your relationships will become and the happier your days will be. Thanks for reading, and I hope you can start to see others as valuable. Maybe not to you, but to someone, and to God; and that you should treat them as such.
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